We all struggle with bouts of laziness – and for many of us it is a very frustrating, de-moralizing feeling that often results in a cycle of feelings where we question our ability, our drive, our character and even our place in this world.
Laziness is an epidemic – forcing those caught in its trap into dangerous defensive behaviors such as addictive behavior as you seek to make yourself feel better in the face of not accomplishing things you really feel you should be.
Laziness doesn't come from a lack of goals, though it certainly may be an indication that your goals are incorrect.
Laziness also doesn't mean that you don't accomplish anything – but it certainly may mean you are not accomplishing the things that matter to you most.
Another problem with laziness is that you can't hide from it — it is like a cancer that impacts you from within. Even if you are able to hide your laziness from those around you, its effect on your psyche is inescapable.
So what causes laziness…here are just a few explanations:
- lack of control (or perceived lack of control)
- past learned behavior or conditioning (yes, laziness can be learned)
- mis-alignment between goals and beliefs or values
- lack of purpose
Of all these factors, fear is perhaps one of the most common causes of laziness.
Fear not only has an emotional impact, but often a physical impact as well such as negative stress, increased heart rate, and of course…the built-in instinct to flee (kindly given to us by our ancestors).
Certainly – our own self-image has a big role to play as well. To the degree that we are not self-confident or self-assured, we are more suceptible to being fearful living life in a constant state of fear or worry about being able to handle situations. Those with a negative self-image, low self-esteem due to past experiences or tragedies in their lives are often caught in a web of laziness that they just can't seem to escape from.
Whatever our past, we must realize that we can set off in a brand new direction. Despite the past we can set any course we want for our life moving forward. Being able to deal with fear is something we can decide to take on – HEAD ON starting today.
Overcoming fear will need to become a learned behavior – that means taking small, and then bigger steps consciously many times until plowing through your fears becomes a much less painful and much more rewarding experience. If you really want to overcome laziness, then challenging your current reaction to fear is essential.
Simply moving beyond fear once is a good start, but it's not enough to turn it into a learned behavior. Just like eating one healthy meal is not enough to change a lifetime of eating habits, the behavior must be repeated again and again until our underlying behavior pattern is changed.
If you look at any high achiever they are constantly pushing themselves to the point where they feel uncomfortable – in effect – raising the bar to entirely new level. It becomes a challenge giving the "boost" that makes them feel great.
Kind of reminds me of running and hitting that euphoric state. It took me 3-years of running to get to the point where I actually experienced the endorphin run – before that it was just a ton of painful exercise.
In the coming weeks we will publish some exercises that you can use to begin expanding your comfort zone, learn to overcome and manage fear and make your feelings of laziness disappear forever.