Each of us has the ability to achieve great things in our lives, reach our dreams and goals and become the people and contributors we truly believe we can be underneath our doubts, fears, frustrations and stresses.
The challenge is keeping consistently motivated and focused on our goals.
Especially when we go through stressful times in our lives, we tend to shut-down, stop being productive and get down on ourselves.
Sometimes that happens for a few days, sometimes the impact of stress becomes chronic and we get stuck in a rut that we wonder if we will ever be able to overcome.
FINALLY, A METHOD TO OVERCOME THE PARALYZING IMPACT OF STRESS
Stress distracts us, places us on the defensive, pushes us off course from our life plan and puts our goals into jeopardy, but it doesn't have to be that way.
There is only one really effective method for permanently dealing with any type of stress that impacts your life – we share our experiences and techniques in Attracting Greatness, but the root is a technique associated with meditation.
There are two massive aspects of meditation that empower you to limit the impact of stress on your life…
1. When you learn to properly meditate, you are taking 20-30 minutes out of the day to escape stress and refresh your mind and body, the impact is rather immediate in terms of added focus and energy
2. A major part of meditation is learning to look at your feelings, fears, frustrations and really…your emotions in an objective way which helps immensely in dealing with stress in everyday life. When you meditate, especially when you get started, you will notice that many thoughts will stream into your consciousness – the more you try to calm your mind, the more these thoughts come rushing in…for a long time I thought that I was doing it wrong and gave up on meditation.
My breakthrough came when someone told me to NOT fight those thoughts, but let them pass through your brain as if it were a river and you were somewhere else watching all of this happen.
As soon as you become the "observer" instead of the "actor" in these thoughts, you have learned to look at all of this objectively and not let the stress or emotions directly affect you.
Long story short, after a week or so of doing this, I noticed a major difference in my ability to handle stress outside of my meditation times…it really was one of the biggest breakthrough's I have ever experienced in my life.
Since then, we have shared our techniques to help others achieve the same breakthrough ability to finally limit the impact that stress has on their life – a good place to start is the instruction & techniques inside Attracting Greatness…feel free to leave us your comments on how stress is impacting your life.
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Are you someone who has a pretty good sense for what you need to do to improve your life, but can't seem to get the ball rolling?
It could be that you have a great business idea, but you just can't seem to create the momentum to get that going.
Or maybe you want to increase your social activities, have more meaningful friendships and get out more…but there always seems to be something else to do?
How about analysis paralysis? Who of us hasn't tied themselves up in knots continually thinking about doing something but somehow not being able to actually get results?
Oh yes, and the big one! We all know what we have to do to lose that 10lbs of belly fat or tone our legs or arms, but man is it tough to stick to a disciplined schedule required to actually realize our desire isn't it?
THE SECRET TO MASTERING SELF-DISCIPLINE FAST!
Look, we are all capable of moments of great progress – in other words, we have moments of self-discipline and that is how we get some things done, but the problem is we would like to have more of them – right?
So it isn't that we aren't capable of self-discipline or that we have to change into a radically different person, it is more a matter of tweaking the way we frame things in our life enough that we get far more self-discipline without the ongoing relapses into procrastination.
In the wonderful workbook Attracting Greatness, the steps and techniques that the most successful people in the world use to expand their self-discipline and live a life of constant achievement with tremendous fulfillment are extremely enlightening and useful.
When I applied these steps to my own life I developed my own system for mastering self-discipline, perhaps this will help you too:
1. Create, internalize and repeat daily your big WHY – what will a starting your new business bring you that you don't have now? How will losing 10lbs make a difference in your life? What would having 3 more close friends do for you? How will this change YOU? How will it change the way people look at you and react to you? I like to write this all out – think of it as a YOU avatar where you have already achieved your goal. Reinforce this daily to keep that big WHY front and center.
2. Outline a clear, detailed, workable and measurable plan for achieving my goals. It must be detailed enough that on a given day when you just don't feel like lifting a finger, you know exactly what you expect of yourself that day AND it must be measurable so you are kept accountable. Without this, #1 is just a wish or a dream, #2 will make it actionable
3. If/when I slip I like to have the negative side well defined – If I don't achieve #1 what will life be like? This reinforces the pain of not making progress and that can be very powerful
4. Do what is MOST important first. I make the most progress when I take the outline in #2 and make sure I work on the major impact items first – that way if I slip further in the day, the impact is much less. I am most productive in the morning, so that is the time I protect at all costs and do the most important tasks first. Some days I take that energy right into the afternoon and evening, other days I just goof off in the afternoon, but either way I have completed the most important tasks rather than just cleaned my desk, checked email, watched a training video, etc…
5. Focus on ONE thing at a time. As busy people we take pride in how MUCH we can do at one time…multitask, but there is a huge cost to that – 1) We are less productive overall and 2) We exhaust our mental ability much faster leaving us drained…before we actually get the important stuff done.
Try this for a few days. Take one important thing and schedule 20 or 30 minutes first thing in the day and just see how much you can get done by just focusing on that one thing. Slicing your day out this way leads to much more productivity and much less exhaustion at the end of the day.
If you want to improve your self-discipline and craft your personal power plan, then get hold of Attracting Greatness and use it to quickly turn your days into fulfilling, productive, enjoyable experiences breaking free of today's limitations.
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I've noticed this more and more about myself lately, and wondered if you have experienced a similar thing in your life?
When something happens in life where I must prepare to do something I don't want to do, no matter how hard I try, my mind seems to shut down and I find it hard to stay motivated or take action.
It's like your mind just shuts down and you become a useless blob for a period of time.
For example, I've recently been on an excellent roll building my businesses – as productive and motivated as I have ever been – but all of that seemed to come to a screaching halt this past few days, and I didn't even really notice until I had to help someone else go through a similar situation.
I've had a pretty tough go of it with a tooth infection, rounds of antibiotics and some other challenges this week that have led to more visits to my dentist than I've experienced in the last 3-years combined…and for me, because I had an absolutely brutal dentist as a kid, the dentist causes higher levels of anxiety for me than it would for most people.
But what is interesting is that I found I couldn't function properly leading up to the various dentist appointments. It wasn't that I was thinking of this the entire time, but I found myself taking comfort with food, television, reading magazines and other activities that ended up to be quite unproductive.
Does the same thing happen to you when you are leading up to an event, meeting or challenge that causes you anxiety, fear or uncertainty?
PREVENTING THE 'SHUT DOWN' EFFECT
Depending on your level of stress, anxiety, fear and uncertainty – losing productivity could become chronic if we can't figure out a way to get around this 'SHUT DOWN' effect our body uses to deal with our emotional challenges.
Here is what I've been doing lately to make sure I can defeat this 'Shut Down' effect – see if it works for you too…
Try and get to the root of the problem.
Why have you fallen into this pattern now – for most of us, this happens when we are overwhelmed or suffer anxiety over something in our lives. I gave the example of pending dentist appointments as one source of anxiety.
Often if we fear something coming – either a major change, major event, our mind goes into defensive mode and pretty much shuts down. After a few days of feeling like this, suddenly we have created a new learned habit – the bad habits become the norm.
We can't typically break out of that norm until one of two things happen:
1. We recognize and deal with the root cause – either by standing up to our fear and anxiety or getting past the event (you know how sometimes you get more energy after something you weren't looking forward to is over) — OR –
2. Something major happens that jolts us out of our current situation…say a health challenge, major embarassment or some other life altering event that suddenly breaks you out of your current pattern.
Counting on #2 is not exactly the best scenario – it may take a lifetime for such a 'JOLT' situation to occur, and nothing says that the major life change will be positive – so let's try and figure another way out of this unproductive mindset.
We really must work on understanding, admitting and then dealing with those situations that cause us anxiety. Sometimes these are very obvious – as were my dental challenges this past week – other times these are buried deeply and can be quite painful – as in the case of child abuse for example.
Whatever the case, you need to find out what is getting you down? What is causing your mind to 'Shut Down'
What is making you feel somewhat out of control?
Once you have the factor, then you need to reframe your response to that feeling so that it is no longer causing you to shut down. In my case, I like to do a few things to help put that fear or anxiety into perspective:
- Write it out 20 or more times – studies have shown that just getting out the frustration or anxiety is thereputic in itself and can help ease the burden on your mind
- I'm a big fan of meditation (don't worry, if you haven't been able to get meditation to work for you, check out Attracting Greatness which has many techniques, but also a kick-butt section on how to quickly & effectively master meditation). Why will meditation help? Meditation is wonderful for helping your mind NOT overreact to life's challenges. When meditation works, you can visualize the most anxiety-ridden situations in your life without the slightest overreaction or discomfort – in short – you learn to go with the flow and not be impacted so much by stress and anxiety.
- Prepare…anxiety, stress and fear go down if we better prepare ourselves for upcoming situations. Our typical response is to ignore the event or situation, but by dealing with it and preparing in advance, we can substantially reduce the impact that upcoming situation can have on our life.
Let's hear from you if you have experienced this 'Shut Down' effect in your life? What makes you 'Shut Down?"
What sorts of things in your life cause you enough anxiety or fear to make you less effective….we all have them, leave a comment if you would like to share yours.
Make sense?
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In life we are constantly faced with people that are better at what you do – or at least that is the way you perceive it.
You may be happily married with a great family, but someone you may look up to (or down on as the case may be) has it together just a little better.
Or, you may be among the top players in your sport or in your profession, but there are still 5% of the people that are doing better…so the question becomes, how can I get better at what I do?
Indeed, you could also be in a position where you are in the bottom 5%, life has thrown you some challenges and now you are ready to embark on a program of change to help you get better at what you do.
After having modeled several of the highest achievers in life and developing the blueprint in Attracting Greatness, you can be more convinced than ever that you can make positive change in your life and that you can get better no matter where your starting point, you age or life situation.
Here are 3 tips to get you started on how to get better at what you do:
1. Elevate your expectations & standards: The reality of our lives is that we achieve (almost always) to the expected standard we set for ourselves. Sure, we may dream bigger, we may want to be bigger, but do we EXPECT to be bigger and better? That is the more important question — to get better at what you do you must work on your mind to frame a new set of expectations (not just dreams or desires). While improving your results starts with a dream, altering your expectations is what really helps you get to the next level
2. Consistency. The universe values consistency at an exceptionally high level. Raise your game for one or two days and then sink back to where you were will not only NOT get you to the next level in your life, it will demonstrate inconsistency which will also lower your credibility making it that much tougher to get better at what you do the next time. Making small adjustments and commitments that you can put into practice consistently is better than making wild leaps that can not be sustained
3. Work on your self confidence. You do not get better at what you do without having a firm inner belief system that allows you to wander into the forest of the unknown with excitement and confidence rather than dread and uncertainty. If you want to get better at what you do, then make sure you are ready to break down the barriers that fear and uncertainty will place in front of you.
Anyone can get better at what they do – it is a matter of combining fearlessness with consistency and a new set of expectations, armed with those 3 powerful things, you can really become unstoppable.
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What would you say is the #1 factor that stands between you and making the change that you want to in life?
So many people continue to live lives of quiet desperation despite knowing exactly what it is that they want or desire – why is that?
Can you remember a time in your life when you knew you wanted something different, but for whatever reason you couldn't get unstuck, couldn't find your way out of being 'stuck in a rut' no matter how much positive energy you tried to use?
We recently surveyed a number of people that visit one of our sites and found the top barriers to change to include:
- procrastination
- low self-esteem
- an inability to take action
- fear of failing
- fear of what change might mean in my life
- not being sure of the path forward
Let us know which one of these hits home most for you, or perhaps you have another we have not yet heard…leave a comment by hitting the comment button at the top right of the post.
What is quite interesting about this list is that a good deal of these factors can either be eliminated or, at the very least, reduced by improving our own self confidence.
Fear, frustration, procrastination and uncertainty over our path are often associated with low self confidence. We gravitate to someone else's expectations because we don't fully trust our own. We fear the unknown NOT because of anything specific, but more because we are not sure in our ability to handle whatever comes our way.
Think about that for a moment…it is not any one specific event or occurrence we fear, it is the paralyzing fear of us not being able to handle whatever comes up that keeps us in comfortable situations – even if we badly want change.
Inside Attracting Greatness we outline the 5-Pillars of Greatness – confidence is right up there as the top pillar…fundamental foundation for all other change, achievement, growth and progress in our lives.
Next time you struggle with procrastination, fear or uncertainty – stop beating yourself up and instead work on improving your own self confidence…in the end that will get you over the hump.
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I thought I was the only one who seems to always be on the lookout for ways to improve my kids's self-confidence. After all…more than ever before, we seem to live in a society that values (no, even demands) we are confident and self-assured in our own mind and in terms of how we behave.
What about you? As a parent, are you more concerned about your child's self-confidence than say bullying, anger management or other social/psychological challenges they may experience growing up?
WHY SELF-CONFIDENCE MATTERS
In today's society people are forced to make more decisions in less time which means that those of us who must convince or persuade others have to be more effective than ever. It goes without saying that one major factor in our ability to quickly persuade or impress someone else is self-confdence.
Looking at some of the most successful people ever in Beyond Greatness, one of the 5-Pillars of greatness is self-confidence — so those of us who are concerned for our kids level of self-esteem fundamentally kn0w this to be an important quality they must posess as they grow older.
Now, we find out we are not alone. A recent survey commissioned by Big Brothers and Sister's organization finds that the #1 concern parents have for their kids is low self-confidence…a full 62% cited concern in that area beating out other issues such as bullying and alcohol/drug addictions likely supporting the notion that low levels of confidence are often the catalyst for other negative experiences our children have as they grow.
All of this said, let's note a couple of cautions about judging self-confidence in our kids:
1. Kids mature at different speeds, your 10-year old may not yet have the strong self-confidence that his peers have at school, that doesn't mean he will never have self-confidence, it may just mean he hasn't yet fully developed his place in the world
2. Outward appearance isn't everything. Many people make the mistake of confusing being outgoing or an abundance of outward behavior as self-confidence where a quiet, less competitive or more reflective person is thought to have lower self-confidence. Instead of looking at how outgoing they are socially, look for signs of happiness, contentment, self-assuredness, taking interests in things, and having a close circle of friends as opposed to looking at how outward their personality is.
On the other hand, signs of low self-cofidence can include:
- Have trouble dealing with their emotions (not just periodically, but often)
- Are unhappy more than they are happy
- Often hesitate or refuse to do what they want to as fear overtakes them
- Are unable to act independantly or take responsibility
- Shy away from new opportunities (as a rule rather than the occasional dislike)
Note – we all go through points in our lives when we are operating at lower self-esteem than at other times, kids are no different. So, if there is something quite new such as a move, a new school year, or other major life change, give them some time before you judge them as needing a boost to their confidence.
3 Ways To Boost Your Kids Self-Confidence
1. Make sure they feel loved and wanted. I've noticed this with many families struggling with kids who have low self-confidence, they have lost touch with their kids. It's easy to do in today's busy society. Look for ways to spend more time with them, talk with them, share moments – become active in their life again and you will have set the foundation for strong self-confidence. Making sure your child feels loved doesn't increase their self-confidence immediately, instead it sets a strong foundation upon which their own growth can occur.
2. Help them get to know themselves. So much about childhood and learning is about others teaching them about the outside world, how to act toward others, more and more about the world around them…but what about how they get to know themselves? I was in my 20's before I really figured out how important it was to take some time each day to get to know what was inside of me…you can help kids do this with introducing them to concepts of personal improvement, visualization, breathing exercises, imagination games and even introduce the basics of meditation to them.
3. Stop doing things for them…instead encourage them to do for themselves. This is tough to do, but instead of doing things for them, let them try things and make mistakes. There will be messes, they will occasionally get hurt, and their will be times where it will pain you more than them…but letting go while still loving them is crucial for them to grow their self-confidence.
There are two common causes for severe low self-esteem among kids…not loving them enough and smothering them.
The key to increasing your child's self confidence is offering them unconditional love, get involved in their lives and know when to back off and let them make their mistakes. I know, easier said than done, but the stakes are high.
What have you found works to improve your kid's self confidence?
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Change Your Life Now!
After living through an immense health challenge in my early 20's that fundamentally altered my life forever, and experiencing an incredible ability break through limitations, fears and that horrible feeling of just being stuck in life, we decided to put our experiences together with years of research from others who have been able to excel into Greatness in their lives – all with an aim to putting together the absolute best, fastest and most effective plan to help you change your life, realize true happiness and prosperity…a blueprint we call – Attracting Greatness!
Attracting Greatness is changing lives, helping people who have been stuck in a rut for decades to finally breakthrough and experience fundamental, extraordinary change.
Whether you are searching for that deeply held purpose you know you need to find, but can't quite seem to put your finger on, or that you are trying to push past the daily bad habits that are keeping you from realizing your dreams, Attracting Greatness has the blueprint that really works.
We outline the 5-Pillars of Greatness…the 5 most important aspects of our lives that require mastery. Without understanding and then aligning each of these 5 Pillars, progress will be nearly impossible. Some of those pillars include Finding Your Ultimate Purpose, Overcoming Fear & Anxiety and Boosting Self-Confidence Once And For All!
What is truly amazing about this system is the incredible power we have when understanding how each of the 5-Pillars of Greatness impact one another – suddenly it becomes clear why when we work on just one, we may not see the results we expect…yet when we work just a little on all 5 we see amazing results with less effort – after all, they are intertwined and to make progress we must understand how each works for or against the other.
Another powerful aspect of this blueprint are the techniques, tips and strategies outlined helping us to tap into our internal values, beliefs and inner compass — with these quick techniques and practices we can not only bring immediate calmness to anxiety ridden lives, we can truly figure out who we are and how we can best improve our own lives and the lives of those around us.
As one example, we show you how to mix simple, effective meditation techniques (we used to be terrible at meditating, but found a way to really make it work) to guide the deepest, most important realizations from within us suddenly lighting up our brains with the most profound realizations of who we are, what we want and what is holding us back.
Over and over again we are getting heart-warming and sometimes positively shocking stories of how people are finally getting unstuck and are finally able to move past limitations they have had in their lives for decades.
If you are at a point in your life where you are stuck in a rut, where you suffer from low self-confidence, can't figure out how to change your daily routine to be happier, more satisfied and fulfilled or simply want to step up your results…then I highly recommend you head over and learn more about Attracting Greatness – it really works!
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Finally! Real Change
Doesn't it so often happen that our intentions to change areas in our life exceed our ability to realize those changes?
We have goals we would like to achieve with our weight, health, emotional well being, careers, finances and with our relationships – some of them we have decided to make a top priority, yet even though we focus 100% on these changes, we can't seem to translate that desire into everyday change – how come?
After all, what is the toughest part of changing your life…is it:
- positive thinking or positive attitude?
- being clear on what you want?
- staying motivated?
- taking action?
Yes, these factors are definitely important, but lets face it…there is one question to change your life that seems to be the toughest to answer isn't there?
In the groundbreaking formula contained in Attracting Greatness, it is mentioned that despite knowing exactly what you want to change in your life, having enthusiasm and a positive mental attitude, and even taking the first steps toward action…the challenge for most of us remains:
How do we wake up and change our life…or specifically "how do we make sure we make the correct choices, decisions, and take the right actions each day to progress us toward those objectives"
Changing your life will not happen with dreams, thoughts, plans or sporadic actions alone, there must be daily change…and that is the really important part.
Some people call this self-discipline, others call it willpower, whatever the term the fact is that true life change will not occur unless you can make daily progress toward your objectives and goals.
The challenge is that the daily bad habits we want to turn into good habits have been reinforced with positives in our minds for long periods of time – that won't change overnight without something extremely dramatic happening in our life.
In other words, before we can leave the negative habits behind and begin consistently practicing the good habits that lead to meaningful change in our lives we must program out our bad habits and program in our good habits.
As an example, for me, I was able to stop a bad eating habit by linking that habit to a very close friend dying of a hideous disease. I actually went over the association in my mind again and again each day for several days until I found my mind no longer wanted that bad food as much anymore.
Unfortunately, you have felt how strongly bad habits can be ingrained in our psyche, so it often takes something pretty dramatic to change – for most people, that means ramping up the pain associated with negative habits and patterns of behavior while associating amazing pleasures with the newly desired habits.
Practice this fundamental principle of daily behavior change and you will finally realize real and amazing change in your life.
To get more on how to remove obstacles and attract incredible abundance, happiness and wealth into your life I suggest you devour and follow Attracting Greatness – it is the best overall system for real change I've come across.
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What Makes You Happy?
We all keep this thought in the back of our minds don't we – "Are we really happy?"
Yet, for how much that questions tugs at us every minute of every day we often tend to avoid bringing it to the forefront and really do some thinking about finding happiness or what it is that does not make us happy.
After all, this is a rather complex question – confusing the issue of how to find happiness is:
- Does my happiness have to be linked with making other people happy?
- Is the key to happiness short term satisfaction, or is true happiness and contentment based on adherence to longer term satisfaction?
- Is it ok if being with someone else makes me happy or do I need to have inner happiness?
- And of course the really big one…is it ok if money makes me happy?
No wonder we have such a hard time getting a handle on this happiness question – as our lives grow more complicated sometimes we lose total perspective on what being happy even means or feels like.
Inner Happiness Key To Outer Contentment
A lesson we learn as life goes on (if we are lucky) is that relying on other people, situations or factors to find happiness often ends up leaving us empty in the end.
It's not that other people or things shouldn't make us happy – it is more around how those factors need to accent our inner happiness to really be effective.
We must start with an inner core of happiness that then guides us (attracts us if you will) to people, situations and factors that enhance (not conflict) with our inner happiness.
For instance, starting from a point of inner confidence where we live our lives in harmony with our internal purpose (refer to the very effective Attract Greatness on this topic), means that we attract those who help bring out this inner confidence rather than shoot in down.
Similarly, if we are clear on our purpose and direction in life, then possessing money or particular material things can be used to enhance our life purpose (helping others, learn more, etc..) rather than conflict with this life purpose (gamble it away, spend it on destructive practices that make us unhappy in the end).
What Makes You Happy?
So, that brings us to the FUN part – what makes you happy?
Let me kick things off, but I want to hear from you – hit the comment button (top right of this post) and let us know what really makes you happy?
Here are some things that make me happy:
- Being able to use my full creative energy (music, writing, leading people)
- Spending at least half of my day (more if possible) learning new things
- Sharing what I can with those around me (customers, family, friends)
- Silence – having time each day for meditation and introspection
What has the opposite affect, stifles my happiness:
- Getting too far into a pattern of doing without having time to reflect
- Having other people control my time & impact my energy, I have chosen to make this a major focus area in my life
- Wasting time with people who get in the way of those things that make me happy
- Fear, frustration or other negative mindsets that stifle natural curiosity, learning, free expression and growth
Ultimately, this comes down to knowing if I focus on inner happiness and stay aligned with that state, my outward behavior and impact on the world will be much more positive reinforcing the happiness and fulfillment we all seek. Of course, we are human and none of us are perfect, but this is a journey and hopefully we can continue to make progress.
So let's hear from you – what makes you happy?
Jeff
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I was helping one of my students earlier today who had lofty goals about making money in his new internet business, but came off as completely fake and over eager.
We had the conversation about what he wanted to accomplish, what value did he want to delivery to his market and how he would help people who would be the target of his latest book?
Obviously the conversation was not going in a direction he wanted it to go in.
Instead, he kept asking "how much do you think I can make by doing X?" Or…"how soon can I make $Y"
While there are valid questions, there is such a thing as putting the cart before the horse.
Before you can set financial goals, you need to understand what your own beliefs and desires are, what your place in society is, and how you will bring value to those around you.
The system outlined in "Attracting Greatness" is all about aligning your personal desires, passions, strengths into a powerful purpose that attracts happiness, peacefulness and financial security into your life, but my conversation with this young man was the exact opposite, instead it was about something that will make you unhappy and POOR in a hurry, that something is…
DESPERATION
You have experienced the terrible car salesman that so badly wants to sell you a new car that he completely forgets that you are a real person with questions that needs to be heard right?
Or, you have had the pushy network marketing affiliate who breaches the fundamental trust established over years to make a few bucks commission…
How did you feel?
Right – turned off!
Desperation repels happiness, well being and wealth in your life – PERIOD!
Honestly – I know just as many miserable people who are can't come up with next month's rent as I know miserable people who are chasing after more.
Happiness, peace of mind, and life balance comes from within – if you are willing to look inside of yourself and get to really know who you are, what you have to offer, what your role is in the world and become comfortable with who you are…then not only will money not dictate your state of mind, it will be far more likely to flow your way because you are focused on adding value rather than taking.
Being in business for years it always amazed me how the actual realization of financial gain, security and happiness are actually repelled by trying to hard to get it.
If you are desperate, then everyone sees that and you you actually turn people off.
Same thing goes for relationships, health or any other area of your life where you want to make improvement.
By convincing yourself you are NOT up to par in a certain area of your life you are sowing the seeds of self-doubt. That self-doubt impacts your self-confidence and ultimately your expression of self-esteem in front of others and suddenly you have put yourself at a big disadvantage.
If you are comfortable with who you are, consistently live in tune with your inner beliefs and values and stay focused on adding value then money and happiness will find their way to you because you are coming from a position of internal confidence, gratitude and expectation which tends to attract and draw in the abundance that exists all around us – that is my experience at least.
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